It could be said that our ancestors sex drive is responsible for propelling things forward to the point that they are at right now. Sex drive, also referred to as libido or lust seems to be a fundamental driving force among all animals and humans. The drive for sex is strongly linked with hormones (testosterone and estrogen) and the associated neural pathways motivating individuals of both sexes.
It could be said that the male sex drive is much more visual than that of the female sex drive. Women are typically more sexually aroused by romantic actions, images and linguistics, like you might find in movies or in literature. It has been suggested that males will ‘size-up’ a female subconsciously (for possible procreation purposes), he is looking for youth, health, and child bearing ability. In a similar manner, women will size-up a man based on his moods, feelings, and ability to recall memories. It is also interesting to note that when a man encounters uniqueness in a female his dopamine levels will increase.
Male sex drive seems to be focused more directly on the actual act of copulation, whereas the female sex drive is comprised of a wider range of stimuli. Female sexual yearning is often reactive, rather than purely biological or impulsive; it appears to be greatly inclined towards subjective psychological anticipation. Male sex drive on the other hand, is more constant; as opposed to the female sex drive is more unpredictable (but it can be even more concentrated).
There is a biological imperative behind men and women’s animalistic urges. It is important for individuals to learn to satiate these urges if they are to remain mentally balanced. Because the sex drive for men is so object-focused, men should take the time to think about and learn how to manage their sexual desires and urges in the most appropriate fashion. .
1. Men think about sex constantly.
The majority of adult men under 60 think about sex at least once a day. Only about one-quarter of women report this level of frequency in sexual thought. As people grow in years, each sex fantasizes less often, but men still fantasize almost twice as often as women.
In a broad assessment of studies comparing male and female sex drives, Roy Baumeister, (a social psychologist at Florida State University), established that men experienced more unprompted sexual arousal and had more diverse sex fantasies as well.
2. Men are more likely to look for sex with more fervor.
“Men want sex more often than women at the start of a relationship, in the middle of it, and after many years of it,” Baumeister says after evaluating a number of surveys taken from a group of men and women. The same results apply to homosexuals as heterosexuals; gay men are more frequent than gay women. Men, whether straight or gay are also inclined towards having a greater number of partners than women. .
3. Women are more sexually complicated than men.
What is it that turns women on exactly? It would seem that most women probably couldn’t even answer that question. Northwestern University researcher Meredith Chivers and colleagues presented erotic films to a test group of gay and straight men and women then quizzed them on their levels of sexual arousal, (while at the same time measuring their actual level of arousal through devices attached to their genitalia).
The results were fairly predictable for the guys; straight men were stimulated by the m-f sex and f-f sex, and the measuring devices were there to provide proof of their claims. The same thing could be said of the gay men, they enjoyed m-m sex; and the devices were there to further back up the results. Women on the other hand, produced more startling results. Straight women, when quizzed said that they were only stimulated by m-f sex; but they showed the same levels of genital stimulation for m-f, f-f, and m-m sex.
Men are very rigid and specific about who they become aroused by, who they want to have sex with, who they fall in love with.
4. Women take a less direct route to sexual satisfaction.
Sexual desire, as stated above, is not the same for men and women. Women’s sexual desires and urges are said to be more cerebral and less physical than that of men. Women respond well to plans or schemes when it comes to sexual desire, take romance novels for example. Women seem to enjoy the journey, the anticipation, and how you got into that position so to speak.
Women’s sexual desire is based more on context and emotional response than that of men. Men, by contrast, don’t need to rely as heavily upon their imagination since sex can be almost mechanical, or like maintenance for them.
That is not to that men do not also seek closeness, love, and relationships in the same way that women might; it just means that they can view sex and love through different lenses.
Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex. For men, sex is about the connection. Sex can be the language men use to express their tender, loving and vulnerable side. It is their language of intimacy.
5. Women’s orgasms are different than men’s.
It may be impossible to measure the difference between women’s and men’s orgasms, but researchers do have the data expressing the lengths of time it takes to reach orgasm for both sexes. Four minutes is all it takes for most men to reach ejaculation after entering, women average at around 10 minutes, if they can even reach orgasm.
Another key difference between genders is how often they actually orgasm during sex. For men, 75% report that they always have an orgasm; now compare that to the 26% of the women who report to always have an orgasm. Reality is not always the same as our perception of it. While the female in the study reported their rate of orgasm accurately, the male partners believed that their female partners had orgasms at least 45% of the time. Clearly there is a miscommunication somewhere.
