The 2 elements of giving a woman mind blowing orgasm will concentrate on are:
One. Strategy (the way of thinking and general framework from the female climax)
Two. Tactics (methods and the how to’s)
The greatest error that you could make would be to concentrate on the how-to without having to pay proper focus on the very best mind-set and techniques of the feminine climax.
The truth is, the strategies would unleash the power of the methods.
You will realize that the techniques alone could be efficient, the actual mind-numbing, loud, wet, toe-curling orgasms happen mostly if you use the strategy when using the techniques.
Therefore, to get the most from these types of techniques, you have got to spend close attention and fully understand the strategies.
Key #1: Way of thinking
Your state of mind (as well as your partner’s) can definitely make or even split the likelihood of her having sexual climax?
The incorrect Way of thinking
How can you approach your lover’s climaxes?
You most likely enter into intercourse “thinking” of giving an orgasm.
It is this thinking which leads a lot of men on the wild goose chase for that “ideal” strokes and methods.
This simply leaves you blindly searching for each and every suggestion and technique out there, intensely testing all of them on your lover.
However this is actually the wrong way of thinking if you undoubtedly wish to “give” an orgasm.
It may sound contrary, I understand. But it is true, and here’s the reason why?
Whenever you go to the bed room with the objective of “giving” her an orgasm, you are creating unnecessary stress and pressure on you as well as your partner.
Furthermore addition of unfavorable anxiety and stress is inevitable, that too at a time when you should be relaxed.
And as this tension develops, it’ll actually make this a lot tougher for her to achieve orgasm and ejaculate.
So, the best way is actually not focusing on giving her a better orgasm.
Next, focus on tactics that will make it work for you.
You may have seen a football or basketball player break down while playing a game. Most of the time, this athlete is pressured by the crowd and most especially his fans, to perform well. Instead of focusing on the game, they dwell on their anxieties.
In the end, they screw up. When you concentrate too much to come up with an orgasm, this will, most likely, have a similar outcome on your partner. When there is too much stress and pressure, she will not feel satisfied. Since you are aiming for an orgasm in the first place and this goal has not been met, then both of you will be left feeling disappointed.
When you continue with this approach, you may end up attaching this feeling of disappointment to the times of your physical intimacy. This will then be carried over in your next lovemaking session, which will further increase her performance anxiety.
The Right Mindset
Here is the irony of it all …
When you want to have an orgasm, you should not focus too much on this.
Key 2: Communication
There is not one particular technique that will work on all women. Each has her own preference of stroke and rhythm.
In order to learn what turns your woman on, you always have to keep an open line of communication. This way, you can learn the technique that she likes. You can make the most of your rhythm, stroke and speed to please her.
Always see to it that you have an open verbal communication. However, if she is reluctant to open up, you can choose to employ non-verbal communication methods like body language and squeezing of hands.
When you have a good communication, it will be a lot easier to please her and enable more satisfying orgasms.
Key 3: Escalation
Most men make the big mistake of being too aggressive. Though it may work for you, this does not necessarily work for your woman since she may not be prepared for this.
Guys can easily achieve an orgasm. All they need is to get aroused then stimulated and that’s about it. On the other hand, women have to go through a slow but consistent escalation to reach an orgasm.
As you pass through the stages of sexual response, the intensity of stimulation increases. This will be discussed in the following chapter.
Key 4: Anticipation and Tension
Anticipation, which includes excitement and teasing, is a very powerful and effective tool. To boost the effects of your sexual strategies, you have to incorporate anticipation into it. Anticipation will allow her to become more aroused and presents a better chance for her to have an orgasm. Also, this will allow her mind to focus on the physical satisfaction she is going through.
As you build up anticipation, you are, likewise, cranking up sexual tension, which will have to be released in the form of an orgasm. The secret to building up anticipation is to concentrate on the areas around the main target before you hit it.
You can do this by stroking her inner thighs, hips and buttocks before moving on to her vagina. As you do this, she will become wetter each moment, waiting for you to finally enter into her vagina. By this time, the tension inside her has become too strong that it has to be released.
Take note that when you are building up anticipation within her, it also tends to build up anticipation inside you. You have to be able to control yourself and maintain the escalation at the right pace.
Key 5: Relaxation
In able to have an orgasm, a woman has to be totally relaxed.
When she has her mind on other things like her job; being conscious about the way her body looks; making an effort to have an orgasm; or other matters, she will not be able to feel relaxed. As her body becomes tense, she won’t be able to release an orgasm.
What is your job?
Your job is to take care of these problems and make them go away, even for the meantime, with your comforting touch, assuring words, attitude and preparations. She should be totally relaxed and tension-free. If ever she should be feeling any tension, it should be sexual tension.
Key 6: Give and You Shall Receive
You should do the first move by making sure that she gets sexual pleasure from you. In turn, she will respond and give you the same sexual pleasure.
Reasons
This only shows that:
1. You have full control of your sexual desires.
2. This will enable her to be ready to have an orgasm as she is having sexual intercourse.
3. Once she has an orgasm, she will, willingly, reciprocate in the best way she can.
On a more serious note, the quality of the blow job, which is performed without having an orgasm, first, pales in comparison to the blow job that is experienced after having an orgasm.
The same is true with sex…
So, go ahead and see it for yourself, if you doubt this.
Key 7: Understanding the Female Orgasm Flowchart
Read about the female orgasm flowchart here.
